This time last year, I was 35 weeks pregnant and eagerly anticipating the end of an unexpected and challenging journey. Bedrest! After 15 weeks, I had one more to go before I was free to spend the rest of my third trimester as a “normal” pregnant woman. At 20 weeks pregnant I had to get an emergent cerclage due to a short cervix, and was immediately put on strict bedrest. Seven months after getting married.
Bedrest is a serious matter, and of course as a mom-to-be you do what you have to in order for your baby to be safe. However, being restricted to a bed for weeks is mentally challenging. But what about your spouse or partner? The change and extra responsibility is a challenge for them as well. It’s important to still have fun and enjoy each other during this time. Easier said than done, but it CAN be done!
Some mothers on bedrest get the okay from their doctor to go out one day or night a week. That was not the case for me. Somehow, we made it work, and here are some ideas for those of you in the same boat:
Make it a Movie Night
You may already be burning through your movie collection now, but do a special movie night. Pick out the movies you all enjoy as a couple, get some popcorn and snacks, your drinks of choice, and enjoy your date.
Have a Special Dinner
If you’re allowed to get out of bed for a while, have a nice dinner. For Valentine’s Day we did a candlelit dinner and ordered food. Another time my husband made a Chinese-themed meal, and we used an Asian flatware set we got as a wedding gift. A picnic on the floor or in bed is fun too.
Plan a Future Vacation
This isn’t exactly a date, but it helps take your mind to a different place. Once you all get through the pregnancy and have your beautiful baby or babies, talk about where you all would like to travel in the near future.
Another thing we did was reminisce about our honeymoon. We didn’t film much of our honeymoon, but we took a ton of pictures. So while I had the time, I made a book that captured our Honeymoon experience.
There are a ton of other activities you can do with your partner while on bedrest, just find the time – like you would under regular pregnant circumstances. If you already have children, you can probably incorporate date night after they go to bed. And remember – bedrest will end! Take it day-by-day and week-by-week. A beautiful, healthy baby in the end is worth it all!